Episode 110 — Starting in the Deep End

I like to do what's challenging and not to let people tell me, 'You can't do it.' -- @LastFirstDate1 #PublicSpeaking Click To Tweet

 

2-Minute Tip: Build a Team

 

Sometimes to get better, you may need help, and that’s okay.

  • Hire a coach.
  • Join Toastmasters.
  • Ask a friend or colleague. Take an online course.
  • Take a traditional course.
  • Read a book.
  • Subscribe to a podcast about public speaking

 

Or do all of the above. Or some combination of them.

 

The point is you can build expertise, or at the very least, competence in a skill by assembling your own team of experts. They can be in person or virtual. It can be a dialog or a 1-way process.

 

But you don’t have to do it all alone. There’s a community there you can build or be a part of.

 

But you have to start where you are. Otherwise, it just doesn't grow. -- @LastFirstDate1 #PublicSpeaking Click To Tweet

 

Post Tip Discussion: Meet Sandy Weiner

 

I think the best way to sum up Sandy Weiner’s approach to speaking (and probably a lot of other things) is “Just jump in and do it — but don’t do it alone.”

 

Sandy’s first major talk was her TedX talk, which you can see here:

 

 

 

While she may go straight for the deep end, she’s successful because she prepares — she works with coaches when she has a weakness and does the work she needs to do to be successful.

 

I talk a lot about how 90% of the success of a talk is determined before you ever get on stage — it’s in the  message, in the prep, and in the rehearsal. And that’s how Sandy has succeeded as a speaker.

 

It wasn't really shyness or social anxiety. It was more fear of being judged. And that kept me small most of my life. -- @LastFirstDate1 #PublicSpeaking Click To Tweet

 

Bio

 

Sandy Weiner HeadshotSandy Weiner, founder of Last First Date, is devoted to helping women over 40 achieve healthy, toe-curling love. An internationally known TEDx speaker, dating coach, author, and podcast host, Sandy specializes in helping women communicate effectively, set clear boundaries in relationships, and know their true worth. She believes a woman of value attracts her best partner.

 

Sandy’s work has been published in Mind Body Green, The Huffington Post, Psychology Today, and The Good Men Project.

 

She’s also the host of Last First Date Radio, an acclaimed show about attracting and sustaining healthy relationships in midlife. Sandy wants you to go on YOUR LAST FIRST DATE!

 

What really lights me up is seeing a woman really know her value and be able to communicate who she is and set boundaries. -- @LastFirstDate1 #PublicSpeaking Click To Tweet

 

Superman Pose

 

Sandy mentioned the Superman pose in our conversation, and we talked a little about Amy Cuddy’s Ted Talk about power poses.  Here’s the video of that talk.

 

 

Name it. Know what you want. Start with your why. Why do you want it? And be vocal about it. -- @LastFirstDate1 #PublicSpeaking Click To Tweet

 

Links

 

 

Call to Action

 

  • Be sure to check Sandy’s websites, podcast, and social media profiles. You can find all those links above.
  • Subscribe for free to 2-Minute Talk Tips in your favorite podcast app so you never miss an episode, and then subscribe to Last First Date Radio in the same place.
  • Don’t get best…get better.

 

I was watching some of the other speakers and a lot of them hadn't really prepared. And that gave me more confidence. -- @LastFirstDate1 #PublicSpeaking Click To Tweet

 

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